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Webinar Introduction and Disclaimer (02:32)


Hear an introduction and career outline of "Bringing Families Together for Our Clients Sake" presenter Liz Barlowe and view a Lifelines Academy disclaimer.

Webinar Objectives (00:51)

Adult children often have to make decisions about their parent's lives. View a list of strategies that "Bringing Families Together for Our Clients Sake" participants will learn.

Types of Aging Parents and Adult Children (03:05)

Barlowe outlines the planner, adjuster, independent, and denier types of aging parents. Adult children types include continuing the child role, assuming a parent role, and remaining respectful.

Today's Oldest Generation (01:55)

The 85 and over population will increased by 200% in the next 20 years. The current elderly generation survived the Great Depression and World War II and had no aging role models. They are also demonstrating the aging process for the next generation.

Unprecedented Hurdles Facing Baby Boomers/Adult Children (02:03)

Adult children are having to act as caregivers longer than in past generations; there's an increase in dementia; they may be divorced; they may be supporting children; they may live far away; and they may have financial problems.

Coping with Parent's Feelings (02:33)

Adult children should encourage parents to discuss dependency and acknowledge losses and difficult changes. View sample statements.

Counseling Adult Child (02:12)

Adult children often want to place parents in care situations for their own piece of mind. View a list of questions to help them discuss their safety concerns rationally.

Adult Children's Unresolved Feelings (02:00)

Unresolved feelings often bring families into care management. View behaviors that can result among both adult children and aging parents.

Parents Who Refuse to Make Decisions (01:49)

Competent adults can choose to make bad decisions. Caregivers must learn to let go and let time or a crisis resolve issues.

Strong Decision Making Tactics (02:44)

View examples of guilt, tough love, and negotiation tactics that adult children can take to convince aging parents to make the right choice.

Assessing Family Dynamics (02:10)

View descriptions of five parameters used to assess the foundation at home for care giving. Parameters include compatible vs. conflictual, cohesive vs. fragmented, productive vs. nonproductive, fragile vs. stable, and rigid vs. flexible.

Common Causes of Family Tensions (01:49)

Roles and rivalries dating to childhood, the elder's condition and capabilities, financial matters, and the burden of care can cause disagreements within families.

Avoiding Family Conflict through Conferences (04:45)

Care managers can hold regular family conferences to resolve issues. View a list of successful family conference strategies.

Divide the Labor (06:37)

View strategies for dividing the work of caring for an aging parent among the family. Beth explains how her nine siblings have taken different roles in caring for their parents.

Before a Crisis (03:19)

Care managers should talk with the parents before a crisis develops, and address future scenarios. Ask parents what their wishes would be if they could no longer live at home.

Explore Options (02:17)

Families often make decisions based in inadequate information. Care managers should explore options before making a recommendation, approach decisions from a temporary perspective, assess family member resources, and hold a family conference.

Sibling Rivalry (01:23)

Barlowe provides an overview of three types of sibling relationships as described by Bank and Kahn in "The Sibling Bond," including extreme loyalty, rivalry, and solidarity.

Primary Adult Child as Caregiver (01:48)

Care managers should counsel adult children who become primary caregivers. Be aware of sibling relationship behavior as controlling or avoiding responsibility.

Blended Families (06:47)

Some elderly clients have been married multiple times. Care managers should use the same strategies to identify family dynamics and engage in frank conversations about relationships. Sometimes one member ends up doing all the care; focus on the positives of assisting their parent or step-parent.

Q&A: Family Conferences (02:28)

View webinar references and a certificate of attendance. Barlowe discusses the care manager's role when holding family conference calls with siblings in multiple locations.

Q&A: Care Assistance Denial (02:26)

Barlowe discusses how care managers can handle client denial when it's time to start using a walker. A doctor's order and objective assessment can help. Encourage exercise to build stamina and remove tripping obstacles in the home.

Credits: Bringing Families Together for Our Clients Sake (00:16)

Credits: Bringing Families Together for Our Clients Sake

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This webinar provides information for care managers on how to bring families together and facilitate care for aging parents. It identifies types of adult children and parent behaviors, unprecedented challenges facing Baby Boomer adult children, and ways to cope with parent’s feelings about losing independence. Learn strategies to help resolve family conflicts and empower families to be involved in their parent’s care even from a distance, including counseling, labor division, and family conferences. Ways to help blended families work together for the common good of the family are also demonstrated.

Length: 59 minutes

Item#: BVL93639

Copyright date: ©2013

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